Too much independence is tantamount to detachment.
U'll only understand it when u're in the situation itself.


'Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection --or compassionate action.' -Daniel Goleman


U know what?

There's nothing to look forward to in my life.

Nothing much for me to be happy abt.

And I'm serious.


And my computer died on me last Friday. Thanks. Cos I have two more reports and two more presentations to go.

Come on life. Throw me more shit.


Respect Women.


When it comes to women, I know only one way to treat them
-with respect. Not only the woman I love, but all woman.
In many instances, women tend to be relegated to the background in our lives.
But i disagree with this.


SPOIL HER


I can't say why many men seem to feel that
once love is confirmed, romance takes a back seat.
I am not sure whether it is our upbringing,
or we are too busy chasing the almighty dollar.
Either way, it's no excuse.


Call me old-fashioned but women are meant to be spoiled,
fussed over, put on a pedestal and adored.
Do you dress up for your woman?
Do you hold her hand for no reason?
Do you do the small things like open a car door,
give a morning kiss, buy a rose for no reason,
or most important of all, leave a love note on the pillow?
Making a woman feel good can be extremely enjoyable for the man as well.


You just have to remember that to women,
the little things are incredibly important.
The dinners are nice, the jewellery is nice, the home is nice
but it's the rose that will be remembered,
it's the love note that will be treasured and it's the morning kiss
that will make the best start to the day.


Having said all these, not all women are the same.
Some don't like to be fussed over because they need room to breathe.


LOVE & RESPECT


So, it is vital to take time to discover who your woman is.
If you don't know her, you can't truly love her.
More importantly, you can't respect her.
And every woman wants to be respected by the man she loves.


Respect is not only about how you treat her but how you support her,
encourage her and even take responsibility for some things so she has time for herself.
In fact, showing effort is the greatest form of respect.


Do you have it in you to respect a woman?
Can you let her go to become her own person or will she only ever be your partner?
Can you let her shine on her own?
And if so, how far will you go to help her shine?


Can you listen to her without trying to solve her problems?
(She can solve them on her own, so don't try unless asked.)
Can you open up to her about your work, life, friends...
anything that is important to you?
In short, she is more than your partner;
she would be your confidante and you, hers.


It isn't difficult. You just need to put all the personal egos aside.
If you are like me, you will believe that love does conquers all.
You picked your partner so support her, encourage her, love her
and most importantly respect her because without her,
life would be very lonely indeed.


-The Flying Dutchman



*re-blogged from siping :)


its been some time since i blogged! again! hahaha.

time to take some time off for myself now~ now that fyp is finally finally OFFICIALLY over :):)

*yay!!! claps*

hahaha. it seriously is a HUGE LOAD off my shoulders.
but honestly, its been a very fruitful year as well :)

im sure everyone has whined and complained and said they hated fyp at least once before.

i, complained LOTS abt fyp (Lee, 2010, 2011). -----> APA format citation

but today, when we finally handed up our theses to "Dear Lydia" (our AMAZING coordinator who's been in charge of every big and small thing for my cohort for all 4 years), it really felt like sucha huge acomplishment and another milestone achieved in my lifeee!! i know its just "another thesis" that most ppl have done before, its just another paper in this huge wide world, but to us, its our FIRST research paper!! we finally finished itttt :):)

its been a very tiring year but we all went through it together. from the frantic start where everyone "fought" for the prof that they wanted to work with, to forming a fyp grp, finally getting confirmationfrom the prof that he/she will accept u, to churning out initial hypotheses and editing them many many times until the prof says they're gd, moving on to confirming research measures, carrying out data collection, doing all the (i still find them irritating) statistics, writing up the final portion of the paper, and spamming ur prof's inbox with drafts in the unrealistic hope that she'll respond immediately with comments so that u can quickly finish up ur fyp and get it over and done with!

and in the midst of all those, still trying to keep up with the modules we're taking.

it wasnt easyyyyy. BUT WE DID IT!!!!

12th April 2011. a day to remember! :)

i seriously feel VERY accomplished and felt that all the stress (and tears) i went thru were worth it :):)
(pls give me a gd grade too to make it MORE worth it! lol)

super grateful that i got my dearest frens and group mates ard to accompany me thru all these stages. i dont thk ANYONE can do fyp alone. if u could, i must say i really pei fu u. how can anyone ever handle all the stress and "omg i dont know if this is correct" without help from any frens!! i wld've just died at stats alone seriously :( so, big thanks to jingxiu michelle heidi my dear grp mates!! and those who've been there for me throughout the years like siping karen elsa daren and of cos my dearest melvin! :) what will i do without u ppl~~~~ :):):)

had a very happy post-fyp celebration with psychies this evening :) sad that some of them handed in earlier so they werent here to celebrate tgt today, but at least we had a gd meal after going thru the FINAL lap of fyp tgt! :):)




love u girls :)





this reminds me so much of how i "battled" with my cat last time too. how she would "bite" and "scratch" me but it doesnt hurt cos her bites werent real and her claws were trimmed..

i dont have any photos of her cos i didnt have any camera/camera phones back then. so.. only memories left for me.

i miss her a whole lot. really. :( wonder if she's being taken care of now..